giving confidence

What exactly are we teaching our daughters? I'm not saying we shouldn't teach them to care for themselves and look their best, that's a given. my six year old was in health class this year at school: She came home telling me all the foods that would make her fat and lazy, and then if she happened to eat some she'd put both hands on her nonexistent tummy and push it in saying i need to loss weight. Really! So what gives them the right to use wording like that? Shouldn't it be more like everything in moderation and get outside and play. Fat is one of the worst words we've ever allowed ourselves to teach our children. They become so scared of not being the pretty skinny girl on TV they wont eat the birthday cake at their friends party or they over do it feeling their being rebels. I love food, I want my girls to love food too.I want them to understand it, not just think it will make them large or small, this isn't like wonderland. Food can convey love but they neglect to teach that in health class. they tell you these foods make you fat, these foods make you skinny and if you don't exercise you'll be fat. Theres that word again. Fat its an ugly ugly word. I want to see my girls have a healthy love for food. I want them to enjoy playing hard, breaking a sweat. I don't want them to feel its a must, but more just a joy. I toke the girls to play tennis the other day, and as far as an actual game goes it was a disaster, but they loved it and keep asking to go back. My oldest was the only one to make it over the net and do so repeatedly. My middle girl would hit the net then run up and throw it over to me, and the entire time we all had to be running from a two year old with a racket. Yes it was exercise, but why have to tell them that, it was also fun , and a bonding experience for all of us. Why is it that when we're young we try to look older, when we're older we try to look younger, and all the time be no more then a size six. Why do we do this to ourselves, why do we do this to our daughters? Why do we not say enough is enough? I turn thirty in March and my ten year old told me that was middle aged. So does that mean at sixty i should roll over and give up because life is over. Its just insanity how poorly woman think of themselves, nothings ever good enough. We're all beautiful each and everyone of us. We need to teach our daughters joy for life, confidence, love, understanding, compassion (more then how to apply eyeliner to make us look twenty again). And most of all we need to show them all these things by being them, doing them. Teach them to exercise by playing with them ; teach them to eat well by cooking with them. The confidence that may be harder it may take more time, but we can be there to help them find it.My confidence took years to manifest, most of my life i felt like i was never enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough: It took me hitting bottom to see who i was, to see my own strength. I will tell my girls how strong, smart, and beautiful they are everyday in hopes they'll believe me.