tears

Being a mother is hard work whether you stay home or go to work. I've done both and cannot tell you which is more difficult. There are days that the tears cannot be stopped the stress can hit down deep to the core, every small decision can effect the outcome of your child's life. Count to ten right, breath, stay calm what else do we have to do? The up side to being a working mother was always that i loved work i came home happy relaxed and could play with the girls with plenty of energy. Well working I had time to talk to other adults, in a sense refresh, this is not so all the time with working mothers. If you dislike your job, if it doesn't fulfill you ,doesn't give back to you, you come home upset distracted, and it passes on to your children. Every emotion passes on like a sponge, they absorb all our feelings. I made a decision a few years back to stay home. I miss working tremendously but it was a good decision, all though its harder to find things to keep me feeling relaxed, I've gotten to see my girls do amazing things. I've grown deeper in love with my family and all the silly little quirks they all have. Oh, but they can drive me to a point of insanity that I feel i could just fall into pieces and not be put back together. So which was better? (yes mom I'm gonna wright about you now, sorry, but it has to be done after talking with you about this yesterday i feel it important to clarify this). My mother worked; she worked hard too, she worked nights and had to stay awake for my sister and me when she came home. Her job sometimes made her miserable. But my mother worked hard at home also, she loved us and it showed she was an amazingly strong woman, still is. I'm sure there were times the stress brought tears to her eyes but I never saw, or don't remember seeing. What i do remember was her ability to make the most amazing pancakes, donuts and her ability to pull off partys that i have never been able to recreate. She had a talent for making simple things outstanding. I look back on all those days as a child up in Maine and yes i cry because i miss them. She made memories. She gave love and she is loved. Working didn't stop her from being a wonderful mother. She was and is a strong woman a woman intent on making the people in her life happy: A woman who feels sad when she can't give you everything you want; whether what you want is what you need or not. I stay home with my children now and not because its the only choice not because its the best choice for raising your children honestly i couldn't tell you which is best for raising then. Work or stay home? I think it depends heavily on the mother on her temperament and on the children. If you make good memories for them you've done your job. Love your children teach your children and give your all when your with them. Mom I love you.